tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post4001159175168499586..comments2024-01-12T00:43:40.037+00:00Comments on Maternal Tales from the South Coast: Love for my stepdaughterMaternal Taleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04075679022964297682noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-53600240863917886202009-10-20T20:31:15.739+01:002009-10-20T20:31:15.739+01:00Jo - Bless you for coming by. Don't worry - m...Jo - Bless you for coming by. Don't worry - my 'to read' list is never ending. It's hideous. I'm sure there's a milion unread posts that I need to read...but have had parents in law here for almost a week now and am so far behind I think I may have to cut my losses and start with the new ones. Anyway, yep, Alex is fab. Love her xMaternal Taleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04075679022964297682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-32547176925349911522009-10-19T20:59:34.354+01:002009-10-19T20:59:34.354+01:00Em that was gorgeous. Sorry I'm so far behind...Em that was gorgeous. Sorry I'm so far behind. Both she and you sound very lucky to have each other. Hugs.Jo Beaufoixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00957369658590225971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-30453333765915409802009-10-12T21:52:12.047+01:002009-10-12T21:52:12.047+01:00Wendy - Thanks for popping by - and yes, what a lo...Wendy - Thanks for popping by - and yes, what a lovely thing for you to say to your stepson - and how right - yes I've never thought of it like that before. It sounds like he's very lucky to have you - and as in our situation, a great role model for your little one.<br /><br />Muddy - Oh thank you darling. D'you know what? I saw that meme and I was hoping someone would tag me because it's such a cute one (and normally I don't exactly jump for joy at the tags) - so thanks so much. Will try to do it as my next post. I look forward to seeing what my little ones come up with (not holding my breath for a great work of art from the 2-year old mind)!!<br /><br />Lulu's - Don't be silly honey - anyway you have been recently - it's me who should apologise! But I'm thinking I might have your other blog on my roll rather than your new one - and I always read blogs from the roll rather than from my reader (if that makes sense). Must look into it and see if I need to add your new one instead. Thanks for the comment - I'm definitely lucky with Alex - she makes it easy for us all to get on.<br /><br />Hot Cross - Look at you - almost disappearing in my comments as I was typing! Glad I saw you. Thanks for the comment - yes, we had a great time, although the two little ones cried when Alex left. First thing five year old did was to write her a letter (Alex - he's a picture of a flying rabbit I did for you because you're my sister and I love you). Was written all by herself and was so cute I nearly cried!!Maternal Taleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04075679022964297682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-52170895998965182782009-10-12T21:43:18.704+01:002009-10-12T21:43:18.704+01:00Selina - you know I think that is the nicest comme...Selina - you know I think that is the nicest comment of the lot. I shall go to bed tonight with a smile on my face - thank you (and I shall make my husband read it too)! xx<br /><br />WM - Thanks lovely. And yes, I think Alex was happy with it too!<br /><br />Expat - Yes, exactly - and she is such a good role model. Honestly, if they turn out to half as amazing as Alex, I will be chuffed to bits.<br /><br />Irish Mammy - Thank you. And yes, I hope she does too ;-) xx<br /><br />Laura - I think your stepdaughter is very lucky to have you. I read the article about your family the other day and I think you do a fantastic job. You're right, it's not easy, but I think if you both want it to work, then you're starting from a good place.Maternal Taleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04075679022964297682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-10553610259499480162009-10-12T21:22:00.125+01:002009-10-12T21:22:00.125+01:00Liz - No problem - and thanks for popping by too -...Liz - No problem - and thanks for popping by too - I have added a link to your post about SPD in my latest post. I hope I didn't make you too teary :-)) x<br /><br />Motherhood and Anarchy - Thanks for popping by here too. I liked your post on sibling dynamics - defiitely reminded me of my two!<br /><br />Chic - Thank you lovely x<br /><br />SAHM-I-AM - Aaw that's wonderful to hear...sounds like I'm not the only one then. And yes, it's such a bonus for the younger ones to have an older sibling like that - she's a great role model for them.<br /><br />BiB - Yep, I'm chuffed to bits for my little ones to have someone so close to them who isn't a parent. I'm imagining them going to stay with her when they're older...hanging out with her and looking up to their older sister (lucky them)!Maternal Taleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04075679022964297682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-76180466963227003142009-10-12T21:14:39.575+01:002009-10-12T21:14:39.575+01:00Maddie - Heh heh!! Yes, I think all children can ...Maddie - Heh heh!! Yes, I think all children can be precious when they want to be (not just stepchildren). But I guess it is easier when they're your own. I think one of the main reasons why Alex and I have 'worked' is that there's only 18 years between us (and I still 'think' I'm young at heart) so I'm able to still relate to most of what she's going through. Easier than being from a completely different generation I think.<br /><br />SPD - Thanks dude. Yep, it has definitely developed over the years...but she's made it easy too.<br /><br />Radha - I know - can you believe it?? She'll be 18 in a couple of weeks. Can't quite believe it myself. I look at the wedding photos now and what strikes me is just how much she's grown. She's literally head and shoulders above me now - and yes, she is a total stunner!<br /><br />Freddo - I know that always comes as a shock to people - but no, she's only half-French (same as my two little ones).<br /><br />Nicola - Jusdging by the sound of your little boys, I'm sure they'll be easy to love. Yes, it is possible. Here's hoping that your ex finds someone worthy (of their love) xxxMaternal Taleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04075679022964297682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-15738897173819425852009-10-12T21:13:58.433+01:002009-10-12T21:13:58.433+01:00A really wonderful, positive post lady - I hope yo...A really wonderful, positive post lady - I hope you all had a fabulous time together. :-)Hot Cross Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17052268534992433595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-64062828482184659832009-10-12T21:05:16.968+01:002009-10-12T21:05:16.968+01:00Brighton Mum - I'm sure you've been a fant...Brighton Mum - I'm sure you've been a fantastic stepmum darling - anyway, can not have been easy with 4 of your own! I can't imagine what it's like when they're all there at once! And thanks, yes had a great weekend x<br /><br />Insomniac - Thanks darling xx<br /><br />Josie - Aaah - I would have loved to have been your step mum (although that would make me a granny already) and I'm not sure I'm ready for that just yet! Sorry to hear that your stepmother was awful...I guess it takes all. Must have been horrible for you. Big kiss xx<br /><br />Met Mum - Yep, I definitely think it's possible to make it work...but it has to come from both sides I think. Alex is easy to get on with (as I hope I am too)!!<br /><br />Kathryn - Thanks honey - and yes, I think you're right - it takes effort on both sides to make it work. I think both Alex and I have been lucky - not only have we wanted it to work, but we've tried to make it work as well.Maternal Taleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04075679022964297682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-51348995764784448272009-10-12T20:50:55.933+01:002009-10-12T20:50:55.933+01:00Tasha - Thanks honey (and completely changing the ...Tasha - Thanks honey (and completely changing the subject here - yay for the birth of Eleanor - well done you). Back to the post - yes, I think stepparents have been given a bad rap, but like you say, it's more and more common these days so the likelihood of finding an example that works is much greater...<br /><br />Lorraine - Ooh sounds similar. And yes, my children adore ALex. When she left this weekend they cried :-((<br /><br />allgrownup - Aaah darling that is so lovely. What a wonderful story. He sounds like an amazing man. So yes, it is possible... xx<br /><br />Helen - Thanks honey. Yep, after all these years!! Who'd have thought?!Maternal Taleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04075679022964297682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-21327103089950675122009-10-12T10:15:12.277+01:002009-10-12T10:15:12.277+01:00Hello you,
Sorry its been a while since my last vi...Hello you,<br />Sorry its been a while since my last visit to your blog.<br />This was a lovely post. My daughter has a Step-Mum and I hope she is as generous of spirit as you are.<br />xx jolulu's missiveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00137536605784710186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-42823717241360890932009-10-11T22:23:53.218+01:002009-10-11T22:23:53.218+01:00That was beautiful - note to self..must stop cryin...That was beautiful - note to self..must stop crying at laptop - husband concerned. Anyway my Pal Tara http://stickyfingers1.blogspot.com/ has started a Meme - getting you to get your small ones to draw you, I have done it and now am passing it on so I have tagged you at my blog (hope this is OK) - enjoy the results http://howilikemycoffee.blogspot.com/2009/10/picture-perfect-meme.htmlHow I Like My Coffeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01820095194342504687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-86943796505092242572009-10-11T12:15:44.241+01:002009-10-11T12:15:44.241+01:00I'm a step mum too. When my own son was born ...I'm a step mum too. When my own son was born I remember my stepson saying well I know you'll love him more than you love me and that's okay. <br />I was shocked by his words. I thought for a minute and repied "I will love him differently to you. All mothers love each child differently because each child is unique and special. But always remember I chose to love you. Not because I had to. Not because I gave birth to you, but because I wanted too. That is a very precious kind of love."<br />We never had that conversation again. We do tell each other often how much we love each other.<br />Here's to mum's and step mum's everywhere.Wendy Tomlinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08758457255221438031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-21230219291300606312009-10-11T00:26:10.511+01:002009-10-11T00:26:10.511+01:00I too have a stepdaughter, aged 14. I had a terri...I too have a stepdaughter, aged 14. I had a terrible stepmother and I vowed that I would never let my own stepdaughter feel the way I did growing up.<br /><br />It's bloody hard work, but something that I'm really proud of. Hopefully she values my friendship as much as I value hers.Laura - Are We Nearly There Yet Mummy?https://www.blogger.com/profile/02827420866489863620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-85763367342080974362009-10-10T19:38:57.584+01:002009-10-10T19:38:57.584+01:00This is a lovely dedication to Alex I am sure she ...This is a lovely dedication to Alex I am sure she has deep feelings for you as well!Irish Mammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06757346514998427835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-12420800520204993622009-10-10T17:48:47.766+01:002009-10-10T17:48:47.766+01:00Aw...what a sweet post. It's always nice to ha...Aw...what a sweet post. It's always nice to have a role model for the little ones too.Expat mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17798190669591053390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-61460745343714366332009-10-10T17:15:17.993+01:002009-10-10T17:15:17.993+01:00That's a lovely tribute and a heartwarming sto...That's a lovely tribute and a heartwarming story.Working Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16243697047355131343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-39418783961845959412009-10-10T08:32:59.866+01:002009-10-10T08:32:59.866+01:00What a lovely post! But you know, what I read abo...What a lovely post! But you know, what I read about you through your posts shows that you are a lovely caring person and a great mum so it's a tribute to you that you get on so well with your stepdaughter. What's not to love?! Have a great weekend xSelina Kingstonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01515746813047397411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-41226345191486143012009-10-10T07:39:34.268+01:002009-10-10T07:39:34.268+01:00Sounds like you have totally managed to get that r...Sounds like you have totally managed to get that relationship right. And she sounds so lovely. The little girls must LOVE her. They are so lucky. When they get older they will have someone older who they can talk to and get advice from who isn't a parent. That relationship is a very special one. xDorset Dispatcheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10457466586411004146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-88572598525372492792009-10-10T04:29:43.306+01:002009-10-10T04:29:43.306+01:00What a great tribute to your step-daughter. I'...What a great tribute to your step-daughter. I'm sure she'll love reading it. I too have an awesome step-daughter who'll be 21 shortly. We met when she was 15 and we've never had a single run-in. I feel sooo lucky. The boys adore her.cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03889400852860660437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-16456177267840114382009-10-09T23:17:33.324+01:002009-10-09T23:17:33.324+01:00Awww, that's so lovely. XAwww, that's so lovely. XChic Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01803588856685163353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-42513018834956057532009-10-09T22:03:01.314+01:002009-10-09T22:03:01.314+01:00I do love the dynamic between siblings! Hope she e...I do love the dynamic between siblings! Hope she enjoys the wake up call. Thanks for visiting my blog and the comment, it's good to hear other mums experience the same. SaffiaMotherhood and Anarchy...https://www.blogger.com/profile/12535139562870268574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-14551179110438173752009-10-09T21:10:35.004+01:002009-10-09T21:10:35.004+01:00What a beautifully written post, it brought tears ...What a beautifully written post, it brought tears to my eyes. I'm so pleased that you and your stepdaughter have such a fantastic relationship. And thank you so much for popping into my blog xLiz (LivingwithKids)http://www.kidstart.co.uk/livingwithkidsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-33460804659152033002009-10-09T20:07:59.405+01:002009-10-09T20:07:59.405+01:00How lovely. I have just met a new mum from school...How lovely. I have just met a new mum from school, who has 2 step daughters of similar ages (as well as 2 young boys of her own) and she is just as besotted. She refers to them as her daughters - although not in any way to denigrate the mum, who she gets on with well.<br /><br />I am hoping that when my ex finds the new 'love' in his life that she will be just as generous to my boys - find as much love for them as you have for Alex. It really reassures me that it is possible, because it wasn't my experience when my dad remarried (although saying that, we do get on very well now...24 years later).<br /><br />Thank youxxNicolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07017352687163694581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-67826259844448247712009-10-09T20:02:45.513+01:002009-10-09T20:02:45.513+01:00Bath?!
I always assumed she lived deep in the Limo...Bath?!<br />I always assumed she lived deep in the Limousin or something.<br />Not that it matters.<br />Obviously.freddo41https://www.blogger.com/profile/17056668468054713413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-293793938766074805.post-50415999935161298822009-10-09T19:13:40.309+01:002009-10-09T19:13:40.309+01:00I cant believe Alex is 18!! I remember her from y...I cant believe Alex is 18!! I remember her from your wedding... she was beautiful then, bet she is a stunner now. <br /><br />So glad you get on so well...<br /><br />Much love to you all <br /><br />RadhaRadha Daviesnoreply@blogger.com